Even on Valentine's Day, life isn't always a box of chocolates, as many people believe.

As a matter of fact, it may be one of the most dismal times of the year, especially for seniors who are widowed or who live on their own.

According to psychotherapist Dr. Allana Coffee, "It may be melancholy, especially if they've lost someone, whether via death or divorce, since we have a divorce rate that's very large, and it's sad."

This type of depression is distinct from the melancholy experienced throughout the Christmas season.

While Christmas is unusual because everyone is there at Christmas, Valentine's Day is unique because it celebrates the union of two individuals. This is a really romantic holiday, and it occurs at a romantic period," Coffee explained.

So, what are our options? Dr. Coffee believes that the most valuable gift we can offer is our time.

"We are their children and grandkids," says the author. Put the baby out there, because I believe they will be captivated by seeing their grandkids around," Coffee said.

Flowers have also been shown to improve emotions, alleviate despair, and encourage kupuna to engage in more social activities, according to research. Even more potent might be the use of the correct flowers.

"Though we know that grandfather always gave roses or tulips, even if grandma's favorite flower is carnations, we can still give the flower that grandpa would have sent," Coffee explained. "Even if we know that grandpa always sent carnations, we can still send the flower that grandpa would have sent."

Remember that moving on does not imply that you have forgotten about your prior relationships. According to Coffee, "It's really adorable to watch folks in their seventies and eighties who are dating, and in some cases marrying, and who are in happy, meaningful relationships."

Distractions can be beneficial in this situation and are not deceptive in any way.

In the past, psychologists would advise people to "just confront it," but Coffee believes that distraction may be beneficial in some situations. "I believe that distraction has worth and that it is not a phony thing," Coffee stated. "Distract with genuine affection, and keep your attention on the here and now." This is the group of people that are there with you. "This is the family for which you have sacrificed so much."